Burning Question: When there has been a divorce/separation, how do you help children and teens through it? How do you get the right attitude?
Separation and divorce have an effect on children in ways which cannot be avoided. Though Mom and Dad may feel that they are justified in their decision to part ways and though there may even be biblical support at times for separation or divorce, children will merely experience the results of divorce/separation and will likely not be able to process the reasons behind it. To view statistical insight into the effects of divorce upon children, see this well documented article by Amy Desai.
Obviously the best solution to any situation within marriage which would cause a couple to consider divorce is to resolve that situation and make needed adjustments to create a healthy, loving, Christ-centered marriage. Divorce may appear to bring freedom, however, in reality it only serves to create a new set of issues in need of attention . . . and many of these issues pertain to the children affected by the divorce. An article which is extremely helpful in assisting children through the troubling waters after divorce can also be found here.
In order to get the right attitude in helping children after divorce, one must be certain to stay close to Christ and to spend consistent time in God’s Word. This is important because His truth will counter and replace the negative emotions such as unforgiveness, bitterness, anger, etc. which often present themselves. Also, this article gives great insight into practical ways to work with a former spouse to insure that the children are cared for in the best way possible after a divorce.