Burning Question: I’ve noticed many people, including some in our church who are in leadership positions, who are married not wearing their wedding rings for various reasons. What are your thoughts?
I could jokingly say that the men I speak to have told me that they are ashamed to wear them, but that may overload the jewelry stores with husbands scurrying to buy themselves a wedding ring to wear! No, most would say that it gets in the way of their work as they work with their hands or that (clear my throat here), it just doesn’t fit anymore!
Wearing a wedding ring is a cultural and not a biblical issue . . . but it is a pretty big cultural issue! The wearing of a wedding ring or choosing not to wear a wedding ring communicates something in today’s culture. For one, it screams, “I’m taken!” Or better, it screams, “I’m gladly taken!” It would only be understood that to some, the lack of a wedding ring could possibly suggest, “I’m available.” Alright guys, now don’t rough me up in the hallway the next time you see me because I insinuated that you are looking for someone despite the fact that you are married. But, is your wife sure of that? Does she wonder why you don’t wear your wedding ring? Does she wonder why it seems so insignificant to you to be publicly identified in the most culturally relevant way as a married man . . . and married specifically to her, no less?
We don’t read of wedding rings in Scripture and I don’t have the energy to find some passage and twist it into an application for why you should wear your ring. But let me share a passage for you to chew on and then apply to your situation. In Song of Solomon 8:6 (now there’s a marriage book!), we read of Solomon’s bride asking that he make her “like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm.” In the Old Testament days, seals were marks of identification and possession. She was asking her husband to make a public display of his love, and their marriage.
So let me just suggest this. Just get the ring (or let your wife pick it out) and wear it proudly. It may not be comfortable and it may get in the way and you may even have to take it off from time to time to get some work done, but just honor her and proudly wear that ring to say to all who see you, “I’m taken!” Better yet, “I’m gladly taken!”